10 scriptures I wish weren’t in the Bible

10 scriptures I wish weren't in the Bible: a list of verses that especially challenge me and show me how much room I have to grow in my walk with God. See the list at gloriousmomblog.com. Before you all try to burn me at the stake for heresy here, I’m not trying to carve up the Bible. These are simply passages that are especially challenging for me, and probably most people. There are verses that most people don’t believe are in the Bible, like “Money is the answer to everything”, but these ones I struggle with because I’m simply not where I need to be spiritually. And while I say I wish they weren’t in the Bible, a closer truth is that I wish my life exemplified them and that I personally didn’t find them so hard to live out. 

1. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves,”‭‭ Philippians‬ ‭2:3‬ ‭

How are y’all doing at valuing others above yourself? I mean, my kids, probably. But beyond my family? Maybe not. 

2. “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.”‭‭ Proverbs‬ 12:1

I’m working real hard at this, but I’m pretty sure I fall into the “stupid” category. Raise your hand if you love correction. 

10 scriptures I wish weren't in the Bible: a list of verses that especially challenge me and show me how much room I have to grow in my walk with God. See the list at gloriousmomblog.com. 3. “Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done with sin.” ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭4:1‬ 

I want to be done with sin! Suffer in the body? No, thank you. 

4. Pretty much the whole Sermon on the Mount should be on this list, but here’s a good one: ““Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.” Matthew‬ ‭5:11‬ ‭

Is this the kind of blessing Jabez was praying for? Cause when I think of “blessing”, insults and persecution aren’t the first thing that comes to mind. 

5. “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.” ‭‭Joshua‬ ‭1:8 

I love reading my Bible. I do it (almost) every day. But meditate on it day and night? Not quite there yet. Wish I was! Pray for me. 

10 scriptures I wish weren't in the Bible: a list of verses that especially challenge me and show me how much room I have to grow in my walk with God. See the list at gloriousmomblog.com. 6. “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭28:19‬ ‭

Everyone loves this scripture, actually. Always quoting it and stuff. But when I think of how much discipling I’ve actually done, this is a reminder of how much I need to grow in this area. Although I’d like to think my blog has done a bit of this *checks stats to see all the countries that have visited gloriousmomblog.com. Oh, 150. Awesome!*

7. How about the first half of Matthew‬ ‭5:22: “But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment.”

I hope “brother or sister” doesn’t include “spouse”, because then I’m in trouble. I mean, who’s never been mad at their spouse? I guess some repentance is in order. 

8. Another gem from the Sermon on the Mount: “But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.”‭‭ Matthew‬ ‭5:39‬ ‭

This one is a little easier for me because I’ve seen the fruit of this kind of reaction in my life. It has the power to transform you and breaks any power an “evil person” can hold over you. Doesn’t mean it’s easy, though. 

10 scriptures I wish weren't in the Bible: a list of verses that especially challenge me and show me how much room I have to grow in my walk with God. See the list at gloriousmomblog.com. 9. James is another challenging book to read. Listen to this one: “Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” James‬ ‭1:26‬

Watching what we say is hard for EVERYONE, but out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks! Man. Worthless. No room there, James. None at all. 

10. The last one I have is another one in James: “If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesnʼt do it, it is sin for them.” ‭‭James‬ ‭4:17‬ 

I asked my husband which scripture he had a hardest time with, and he said, “husbands love your wives.” He thought he was being clever. 

But seriously, if after reading this list you aren’t convinced that you’ll never be good enough without God’s help, read this post here. Sometimes we just need a reminder that we’re completely incapable of being good, righteous, or holy without divine assistance and that seriously the most spiritual thing we can do, like this man here, is admit our failings to God and ask Him for help. 


I SO don’t have it all together

I SO dont have it all together: debunking the myth that some people are perfect. Check it out at gloriousmomblog.com. It happened. I became a pastor’s wife. Well, technically, I married him before he became a pastor, and he’s a worship pastor, but it’s the same concept. So lots of people see me, and know who I am. I’m not in the least obsessed with what people think of me, but with many eyes on me, representing my husband and my church, I have to be vigilant about my demeanor. 

I get it. Seriously, whatever helps people and keeps them from being offended. It’s not about me. But sometimes I feel like presenting this view of a flawless, amazing person doesn’t always help people. Not that they think I’m flawless. Clearly I don’t have supreme control over my kids, and I’m constantly recounting crazy stories of our life. I SO dont have it all together: debunking the myth that some people are perfect. Check it out at gloriousmomblog.com. But for the people who think I’m remotely close to flawless, or that such people exist, I’m here to debunk the foolishness. 

My dazzling Sunday morning look is achieved in no more than ten minutes. 

I can’t even get a shower in before church. Well … I could. It just would mean less sleep. Unfortunately, I’m not that dedicated to my appearance right now. Since my husband is the worship leader, he goes early and I’m left getting three munchkins ready by myself. 

I so don't have it all together: read my post about how being a pastor's wife doesn't necessarily mean I'm perfect, and putting people on a pedestal is not helpful. Check it out at gloriousmomblog.com. My musical abilities were not a gift granted to me. I’m not “lucky” that I can play and sing. I worked hard to get where I’m at.

That said, talent requires cultivation, something I’ve barely done since having kids. I have some skill, but in the scheme of things, it’s not that much. 

I have to work hard to keep my calm with my kids, and I’m not always successful. 

Moms with just one kid are in awe of me with my three, and I’m mystified by the mama with seven kids. Bottom line, don’t compare. 

I SO dont have it all together: debunking the myth that some people are perfect. Check it out at gloriousmomblog.com. If you stopped by my house for a visit and it was clean, you’ve been conned. 

We rarely have people over, and when we do, getting the house presentable is exhausting. I just can’t sustain that every day; I don’t have that kind of energy. It’s not that I don’t clean. I spend more time cleaning than doing anything else. But we’ve got five mess-makers and two people who clean, so you get the idea. 

If you look at the direction and fruit of my life, you could draw a conclusion that I’ve led a charmed life. 

I’ve found that it pays to be honest with myself. First of all, I have no good apart from God. I’m not going to lie and say there aren’t good things I’ve accomplished and that God has worked into my character and understanding. I’ve done my part to allow Him to work, and He’s done miracles. 

I SO dont have it all together: debunking the myth that some people are perfect. Check it out at gloriousmomblog.com.

However, I can look at myself objectively and see that there are areas I need to grow in, and areas that I’ve had victory in. 

The idea that anyone has it all together is a farce. Some people are just better at hiding their issues. 

we're being transformed into Christ's image

As Christians, we are on a journey of being transformed into Christ’s image. We’re all in different places, but none of us, not even the Apostle Paul, have attained it yet (well, NOW he has). 

I’m just a regular girl trying to look like Jesus. I don’t beat myself up for my shortcomings, and I’m not puffed up about my strengths. 

With my eyes fixed on Jesus, can’t see much of myself anyway. 

Why you’ll never be good enough

Why you'll never be good enough: read at gloriousmomblog.com and find out why your best will never be enough. It’s funny how the simplest truth can get convoluted into something that means the opposite. But sometimes understanding the truth can mean the difference between living free and being completely miserable. 

How many people don’t want to talk to or even think about God because the act brings feelings of shame and inadequacy? How many think that you have to be good before you can come to God? Before you can darken the doors of a church?

Why you'll never be good enough: read at gloriousmomblog.com and find out why your best will never be enough. When it comes to this topic, there are two false extremes: one is that God is a fierce, unmerciful deity who will never find you good enough. The other is that God is so full of love, that you can do anything and be anyone and it doesn’t make a whit of difference to Him. 

Such extreme opposing views can’t possibly both be correct. So what do you believe? Here’s the thing about truth: it’s NOT subjective. That means it’s not just what you, I, or Oprah decide that it is. It doesn’t contradict itself. Truth needs a standard. Something that has been unchanging, unwavering, and steadfast for thousands of years. 

That standard is the Bible. If you correctly study the Bible, you can see it assures us that those two views are distortions of the truth. Have you ever heard that the best lie has a little bit of truth in it? So here is breakdown: God is a fierce, strong deity who will never find you good enough. The Bible says ALL have sinned (Romans 3:23). Just because I’ve been a “good” churchgoing girl all my life doesn’t exempt me from this. If you think you’ve kept all the Ten Commandments without fail, check this out: Jesus said whoever looks at a woman with lust in his heart has committed adultery (Matt. 5:28). It’s not looking good for us. To understand the truth of humanity’s condition, you have to understand that we aren’t basically good. Our inclination is to be horribly evil. 

In fact, we CREATE suffering ourselves. Everyone always blames God for it, but it’s US!! We’re disgustingly, inexcusably depraved. God looks at the child-molesters, the dictators facilitating genocide, the dirty politicians cheating and stealing from people and he says, “I hate sin! Sin is killing the people I love!” God hates sin not because He’s some stuffy, far-removed being in a white tower somewhere, but because He watches from heaven and sees it destroy lives. He sees the broken woman selling her body for sex, the junkie who will do anything for his next fix, the wife whose lies to her husband are destroying her family, and His heart is broken. 

So why doesn’t He do something about it? He did!! You’ll never be good enough. Stop trying! God did something years ago that broke the power of sin and gave you freedom from the things that are destroying your life. God IS a God of love. That part is correct. But He can’t love you flawlessly with a love bigger, stronger, and more unconditional than anything you’ve ever encountered and let you keep your sin that is destroying you. That’s where Jesus comes in. You know what He did. God showed the greatest love ever manifested in history by surrendering His Son to death so that you can be free from the torture of sin and be His forever. 

When you finally accept this, believe it, confess it, walk it, breathe it, live it (Romans 10:9-10); then you start your legitimate journey towards perfection. No one this side of heaven is good, but when you walk with God He gives you victory over sin and transforms your life. It’s the only way to live. 

If this post stirred something inside of you, a longing you can’t exactly describe with words, it’s because you were made for heaven. God formed your inward parts and He knows you more than anyone. If you want to talk about it or have me pray for you, feel free to contact me here or comment at the end of the post. 

Managing Ministry with Small Children

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“Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matt. 6:33

My husband and I have been in ministry for years, even before we met. We’ve always known that we would have children, and that we would be serving in church in some capacity. I studied music in college. But we didn’t consider much what those early years of leading worship and participating on the worship team would look like with squirmy toddlers in tow.

Silly Kayla with face painting

When we had our first two kids, we were at a much smaller church than we’re at now. There was no nursery. But I didn’t want to stop my involvement in the worship ministry until my kids were old enough to manage themselves. So I kept leading worship. There was always someone to watch my kids, but I didn’t always know that until the last minute. And sometimes my daughter would come up to me during worship and want me to hold her. This was a little stressful for me, even though I considered it a privilege both to have children and to be able to minister.

At the church where we are currently, there is a nursery service, which is a huge blessing! There were times when I would keep my youngest with me to nap during church (when I wasn’t on the worship team), and times when either one of my boys did NOT like me leaving them, but currently I’m enjoying child-free worship at church, which is a breath of fresh air.

Involvement in church is still nothing like it was when I was single. Back then I gave it 100%. Now the amount of preparation for one single service is substantial. My husband is the worship leader, so he always arrives at church quite a bit before I need to be there, leaving me to get all three ready by myself. As my middle child has autism, he has a tendency to run off without regard for his own safety, so that means the two youngest are always restrained in public, either in a stroller or a car seat, or someone’s arms.

It takes a perspective shift when you decide to do ministry with children. There are some things you must realize.

First, your children are better off watching you serve in ministry.

Jac on the playgroundWhen we first had kids, my husband and I were running a non profit Christian after school program called Starfish Learning Center in the inner city of Chicago. We lived in the same building we worked. I remember walking my kids home from the grocery store one day and hearing gunshots across the street. Some would argue that it wasn’t the best environment to raise my kids in, but my littles were able to see me minister on a regular basis to the children of that neighborhood (although only my oldest will remember). It’s the same for missionary kids all over the world. You need to trust that God has your children’s safety and welfare in His hands. Growing up watching you model Christ is one of the best gifts you can give your kids.

Second, every moment counts. Yes, serving your children is serving the kingdom of God, but do you really want to take a break from serving others until your kids are grown?

I talk more about this in my blog post Diaper Blowouts and the Meaning of Life. You will find your life is more satisfactory and has more meaning when you are serving other people outside of your family. Even if it is only in small ways, letting yourself get consumed by your and your family’s needs for an extended period of time is not healthy.

Third, this season will pass soon enough.

When your kids are small, everything is a ton of work and completely exhausting. It’s exhilarating also, as your children are charming and captivating and love you unconditionally. This stage is a whirlwind, but it isn’t forever. Make the decision now to make the sacrifices necessary for you and your family. Don’t say it isn’t possible. Believe me, I’ve done so many things that others consider impossible, and I’ve seen other moms do crazier things. Take a step of faith. I encourage you: doing ministry with small children is not only possible, it’s very rewarding.